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ANOTHER TRIP AROUND THE SUN
June 24, 2016
Another year older another year wiser, right?
I can now officially say I am in my "thirties". I feel that when you're thirty and someone is in their late twenties you can say "so they are around my age". I feel like that right of passage is gone now that I am thirty-one. Well, almost thirty-one, my birthday isn't for a few more days (on the 28th) but that doesn't mean we can't celebrate it on the beach, in the sun, and with good friends.
My friend Genny organized a small gathering yesterday and asked me what kind of cupcakes I wanted. Since it's strawberry season I wanted strawberry cupcakes of course! She made them beautifully even in spite of being a busy new mom to 5 week old baby Hugh James, and they were delicious. She even decorated them with wild strawberries she had picked that morning. Genny, and her husband Harry, live right next to what seems like a giant pasture of wild strawberry plants. They let me pick some a few days ago and for every three that were ripe on the vine, there were four green ones still waiting for the sun to turn them a bright pink and red. I think I got a gallon in about 45 minutes of picking. It surprised me I got that many so fast because Loralai was standing next to me shoving handfuls of the sweet wild berries in her mouth as I picked them. Oh, who am I kidding, I was shoving them in my mouth just as fast as Loralai was. But now I have wild strawberries in our freezer that I can pull out in the winter and I'll remember how fun it was to harvest the with my little one.
As I lied in my bed last night, tired from winding down two kids from a fun party and happy that it turned out to be a beautiful night on my birthday celebration, I reflected on just a few things that I have learned in my 8 years in Haines.
First, be confident in yourself. I wear my emotions on my sleeve, I can tell you I have shed tears in front of a the Haines Borough Assembly and towns people on a topic that I was frustrated with. Slightly embarrassed about that, I then heard my voice trembling and shaking on the news the next morning because it was also broadcast for the town to hear on our local radio station. I didn't mind because it's who I am and it was on a topic I felt strongly about. If people won't like me because I cried in front of the people that run our town, then so be it. I'm sure it won't be the last time. I also feel that if you love who you are then it's easier for someone else to fall in love with you, stay in love with you, and keep loving you even when that love for yourself is tested at times.
Second, don't hold grudges. I have found that living in a small town if you are frustrated or mad at someone you can NOT avoid them. Because as karma has it you will turn a corner in the grocery aisle and they will be standing there. And then you will just look silly pretending you don't see them, and then what? So I have found that it's in my best interested to just accept that if I've been mad at someone in the past it's a good idea just to talk to them about it. Tell them why it hurt your feelings or why that thing they didn't seem right to you. So when that aisle run in happens at the grocery store you can at least look each other and know your on the path to mending and even a friendship.
Third, love someone with all your heart. One of the reasons that my marriage I feel works (I hope you don't mind me being so personal here) is that I can tell Stuart anything and he is always open to listening to me, as I am to him. I am not afraid to let him see me at my worst and I don't hide my emotions from him. Stuart really is my hero and I'll tell you why. When I first met him he was a little lost. Although he worked his tail off fishing and was great at it, you could tell that he was missing something. Stuart drank a lot our first year of our relationship but I knew Stuart was not his drinking. He was a good person and I could see that. When we got engaged the first thing his mom whispered to me as she squeezed me tight was "you answered my prayers". She also new that Stuart needed someone to share his life with and that drinking was just filling a void until he realized that our love was worth it.
This town has really made an impression on who I am as a person and who I want to continue to be as a person. I am looking forward to many more trips around the sun in Haines and I am excited for what this town has to teach me because I am always eager to learn.
...and here are a couple more photos from the birthday BBQ. It was just a beautiful night, thank you summer.
I'm busy working on my blog posts. Watch this space!